How do flirting, charm and sparkling eyes fit into the corporate world?

I recently read an article in the Cosmopolitan about how women should change their ‘work personalities’. Why this is so relevant now is because after the age of women saying ‘we too want to work’ , ‘we too want to have a career’ and ‘we to want to become bosses and climb the corporate ladder’ its come to ‘we too want to be just ourselves at work or at play’!

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The modern urban female is typically confident, energetic, independent, ambitious and outgoing. She does her part time courses and parties with equal panache, she manages boyfriends and colleagues with élan and she does gardening or shopping with equal passion. At work however the article points out that women tend to control themselves and not do the many things that make them naturally charming in the first place!

Let me point some of them to you!

1. When the woman goes out for a drink with her friends from different jobs she has no care about position or seniority and shows her confidence and charm to all.

2. She laughs and smiles a lot!

3. She is a little flirtatious making her hard to resist!

4. She absolutely stands up to her views and opinions (please ask the husbands and boyfriends!)

5. She has no qualms about demanding for what she wants/deserves/desires!!!

But in the office scenario, she does feel the pressure of position, tends to control her emotions, becomes more diplomatic and neutral and is composed almost always!

Well this article seems to believe that what can make a woman as successful at work as in personal life are those unspoken NOs. Well for starters be confident, It is the one most attractive quality and nothing wins over other people as easily as confidence! Smile, it costs you nothing and gives you almost everything, I did not mean here that you need to be loony but do not suppress that urge to smile or laugh it lightens the eco-system around you! Stand up to your views, accept others views or even agree to disagree but stick to what you believe. And lastly go ahead and ask for what you want, you are required to be a go-getter these days, why just for your company why not for yourself as well!

And oh do not discuss this with your male friends, the much spoken about ‘mystery’ factor pays well at work too!